How much they mean to us

Recently I heard about a website called safeplaceforpets.org , I think it popped up in my Facebook feed or something. They are an organization that helps people trying to escape from domestic violence who also have pets. One quote from their website struck me: “Unfortunately, many shelters do not have the means to house companion animals and many victims are left facing the difficult decision to either leave their pets behind or remain in the abusive environment. Sadly, nearly 50% of victims have delayed leaving abusive relationships out of fear of harm to their animals.” 50 percent. 50 percent have delayed leaving an abusive situation because they didn’t want to leave their pets behind.

Another article that I have read recently discusses homeless people staying homeless because they could not find a place to stay that would allow them to keep their pets.

https://theconversation.com/my-dog-is-my-home-the-need-for-pet-friendly-accommodation-for-homeless-people-140975?fbclid=IwAR1jAXYeBrYryFERBOvLy8ARnq7sRKniQ76RrWPeZ6TanYrHhLQrO8ajW5M

I have long felt that non-pet-owners simply do not understand how much pets mean to the people who love them. It speaks volumes that some would rather remain in an abusive relationship or remain homeless than give up their pets, and IMO it sucks that they have to choose between safety and keeping their pets. Yes, legally, they are property. But to many people, pets are family. And for some people they are the only family they have. The “it’s just an animal” crowd truly have no idea.

Family can also be animals!

It brings to mind as well the outrageous pet fees that are sometimes charged by apartments and hotels which can make it very difficult for non-home-owners with pets to find places to live. One should not be punished for having a pet any more than they should be punished for having a child or a spouse.

Even if someone doesn’t understand this, they should to take into account that many people do in fact make major decisions based on whether they can keep their pets, and be accommodating. I am sad that it is so hard for people in bad situations to keep their pets, but I am glad to see that people are thinking about this and there are organizations to help people stay with their pets.

7 thoughts on “How much they mean to us

  1. I had a horrid dream last night that I logged into here and read a post from you saying Breagha had died suddenly it absolutely gutted me. Just a few sentences saying she’d died unexpectedly and you couldn’t post anything else for now but reblogged “She’s got a way” Was so upset I sat reading it gobsmacked with tears splatting on my laptop but I didn’t know what to say, whether to comment or email you but didn’t want to bug you or ask cos you were obviously bereft and not up to explaining anything.

    So relieved when I woke up. Did realise most folk would probably think it’s a weird thing to care so genuinely about a dog I’ve never actually met lol.

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    1. A few nights ago I dreamed she was hit by a car and injured beyond repair and had to be put down. 😦
      Lot of stress right now for Americans, IDK how much of that bleeds over into other countries but what with the election and COVID-19 cases on the rise here I know I for one have been having a lot of unpleasant dreams.

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      1. Can’t say or relate to the election worries but think Trump is gonna have a lot to scrike and throw hissy tantrums about very soon. Rigged. “RIGGED AND CORRUPTED JUST LIKE I SAID MANY MANY TIMES BEFORE THEY SAID I WAS CRAZY?!! (Breaks away briefly to eat bird shit from a feeder then returns to insane rambling and shouting)

        “CHINA INVENTED THE ELECTION AND THEY TELL ME CHINA RIGGED THE WHOLE THING AND THEY SAY IF THE UK WON’T STOP THEM – FINLAND WILL STEP UP AND SHOW TREMENDOUS SOLIDARITY WITH THIS GREAT COUNTRY!! Finland right? Our friends in Finland confirmed this earlier via Twitter??” Yeah – YEAH FINLAND ARE FIGHTING WITH US AND I AM TREMENDOUSLY CONFIDENT WE CAN BUILD A WALL AROUND CHINA. THEY SAID I WAS CRAZY… THEY SAID THERE WAS NO WAY IT COULD BE POSSIBLE AND WHAT HAPPENED?”

        CHINA AND COVID MADE ME FEEL LIKE A 20YR OLD AGAIN LOOK! LOOK AT ME LOOK AT HOW MY MUSCLES ARE RIPPED I’M TREMENDOUS!!!!”

        We’re back into a full lock-down from Thursday which will be four weeks minimum. It is soul destroying depressing and more cos we have giant steel barriers with huge chains and tarp sheeting because of incessant rain and gales making the river levels rise again and all I want to do is move to Norway. Trulia keeps bombarding me with new properties, farms and land for sale over there it’s dirt cheap to buy, the land is sprawling, magnificent and whilst the ad says “Large, well kept open garden to rear” it actually means somewhere nearer to 10 acres of land, stables, barns, a small natural lake / duckpond and private woodland that runs for 3 miles ending at the jetty right by the mooring where you can keep a small boat. Well kept open garden.. it’s a friggin country!!!

        We’ll get there. 2020 is almost over, our dogs are safe, well and not dead yet and I keep hoping and dreaming I will get to Norway and be utterly conflicted by it’s beauty and just the one small little issue I’ll have – WHALING 😦

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      2. I’m not worried that he’ll win honestly, I’m worried that he will cheat and find a loophole to stay in power. Any other president would have been removed by now. The way he is seemingly above the law is just really concerning. Fingers crossed… a lot of people are worried that this may be the last time we ever get to vote if he wins.
        Yeah I’ve been thinking about moving to another country ever since 2016. Never thought about Norway, I was thinking more like New Zealand (because Lord of the Rings honestly that’s the only reason) or Scotland because of the scenery. Or hey, maybe even England, somewhere out in the country. But I wouldn’t do it unless I could persuade the family (pets included) to come along.
        Oh gosh that sounds really depressing with the lockdown. I kind of wish the US would do that though. We are having a spike in cases I think, and Southwest VA is a hotspot because of how many Trump followers live out here. I keep seeing my friends posting pictures of themselves at Halloween parties standing right next to people without masks on and I want to strangle them.

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  2. Oh no don’t say that I was slightly worried that next notification was a “Wow that is spooky cos guess who got obliterated by a car and died the other night? Go on guess.. You’ll never guess”

    Think maybe thoughts of Cassi were lingering cos Halloween is Happy Dead Dog Day. It’s been four years since she ditched me at short notice. FOUR YEARS SINCE I LAST SAW MY LITTLE FRIEND

    Was talking to Hannah about how she never comes to see me in dreams. Hannah dreams about her and has the odd visit from her boyfriend’s old cat “Fizz” which is one of those where you know the pet / person is actually dead they’re not really there sat with you on the sofa but it’s still really nice to see them all shiny , new and young again and nothing like they did at their end of life here.

    Still get hissy over it cos the deal I made with Cass was I’d let her go to sleep and stay with her whilst she drops off peacefully BUT she had to promise to come get me when it’s time maybe show up and come see in dreams occasionally. That little shit has to date not kept her end of the bargain. Goes tripping off into Hannah’s dreams but I’m bypassed cos she is sooooooo over me 😂

    Seriously though I think the harder, more emotionally jarring and greater someone’s loss and bereavement, the more likely it’ll keep whirring around our unconsciousness and leave a lot of fog and cloud that takes time to lift for good so maybe that’s going on quietly away. Broke my heart losing that stupid bloody dog I grieved so much for her maybe I have a bit of bottled up and left over somewhere.

    By bizarre coincidence, Saturday (literally four years to the day Cass died, I had a stop off visit from Sabre – biggest, loudest fluffiest GSD. Never had a dream about him like that before and it was bizarre it should be that day too.

    Was all young again, fat puppy / lion paws and he kept following / chasing me up and down the stairs playing silly sausages. His legs were knackered before he died so it was ace seeing him “Oh my Gosh Sabre?! Look – look at the fat slap paws and all young again!!!”

    Sabre “Rorarrrgh.. Rrrrrraaarr look at me biting your hand with more e strength than 19 alligator / crocodiles on steds check these big bad lads out look – just look watch RRRRROOOARRRR!!!!” 😂 😂

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